Mr. Stephen J. Dilendick

  • Born: July 2, 1951
  • Died: April 15, 2017
  • Location: Stoneham, Massachusetts

Barile Funeral Home

482 Main Street
Stoneham, MA 02180

Tel. 781.438.2280

Tribute & Message From The Family

Stephen J. Dilendick, 65, beloved husband of Denise (Mulcahy) Dilendick, passed away suddenly at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston. He had courageously battled pancreatic cancer. Born in Lawrence, he is the son of Germaine (Gagnon) Dilendick and the late Aleck Dilendick.

Stephen grew up in the Lawrence and Methuen area and was a graduate of Tri County Regional Vocational High School. He then attended the Franklin Institute and became a Master Electrician. With these skills he went on to own and operate New England Reliance Electric of Medford for many years.

When not working, Stephen had a passion for fishing and was an avid sailor. He enjoyed many good times on his boat the "Triple Take", named lovingly after his three children. In addition to his enjoyment on the water, Stephen also loved his camper, traveling, and riding his motorcycle. He was a carefree and caring man who will be truly missed by his loving family and friends.

In addition to his wife Denise, with whom he shared 40 years of marriage, he is survived by his son, Alec Dilendick and his wife, Rachel, and his daughter, Stefanie Dilendick; one grandchild, Steven Dilendick; nephews, Brian Dilendick and his wife Juanita and Jimmy Dilendick and his wife Margaret; along with many other nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews, cousins, and friends. He is predeceased by his son Scott Dilendick and brother Michael Dilendick.

Family and friends are kindly invited to gather and share remembrances with the family on Monday, April 24th, 2017 from 4-8pm at the Barile Family Funeral Home on 482 Main St. (RT 28) in Stoneham. Parking attendants and elevator available.

The funeral service is scheduled for Tuesday, April 25th at 10am at Saint Patrick Church on 71 Central St. in Stoneham. All are welcome to attend and celebrate Stephen's life. Close family and friends are invited to gather prior to the service at 9am at the funeral home.

Please consider donations in his name to Dana-Farber Cancer Institute to help support Pancreatic Cancer Research and patient care at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, P.O. Box 849168, Boston, MA 02284 or visit

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Condolence & Memory Journal

Sending prayers your way during this difficult time. A year has gone since his passing but a year doesn't take away the lost.
Take care.
A friend

Posted by Diane Gallant - Plaistow, NH - Friend   April 18, 2018

I just heard this horrifibc news. My deepest condolences. The best man in our wedding. I can not put into words the loss you must be feeling

Posted by Susan Mulcahy - East Hampton, MA - Family   July 10, 2017

I just heard this horrific news. My deepest condolences. The best man in our wedding. I can not put into words the loss you must be feeling

Posted by Susan Mulcahy - East Hampton, MA - Family   July 10, 2017

People are regularly tagged with things like, "he's the nicest guy I've ever known". For Stephen, this just so happens to be a truism I'm sure many people would agree with. I haven't seen Stephen in almost 20 years but he is a man who's friendship I missed dearly. I heard of Stephen's passing yesterday and I have not been able to shake the sadness. Even though I had not seen him, Denise or the kids (Adults now) in so long, my heart breaks for them.

Denise, I wish I had stayed in contact with all of you by whatever means. I regret that. Please know that I will keep you all in my prayers. There is no doubt that the world lost one of the real good guys here. He was a wonderful man, who, for a period of time, I was able and so proud to call my friend.

All My Love and Deepest Sympathy
David Vivian

Posted by David Vivian - Melrose, MA - Friend   June 01, 2017

Our condolences to the Dilendick family. There are no words.

Posted by John and Judy Leccese - Stoneham, MA - Friend   April 26, 2017

Denise and family, Linda and I extend our deepest sympathy and prayers for all of you. We regret not being able to join you at this time.
We are so thankful to have had the opportunity to have known Steve. We have such fond memories of the few times we all shared together.
He and all of you will always be remembered in our thoughts and prayers.
May God Bless all of you during these very difficult times.

Buddy and Linda

Posted by Buddy Delaney - Galveston, TX - Family   April 24, 2017

So sorry for your lost. Please send my love and concern for Aunt Germaine. She is not my aunt but as a teen that is how I had address her. I am a lifelong friend of Barbara Mercier. This family has been through a lot through the years and this one is s shock. I pray you find peace through your memories, family, and friends.

Posted by Diane Gallant - Plaistow, NH - Family Friend   April 24, 2017

These past 15 years have been a blessing to reacquaint with my cousin Stevie and Denise in Boston, Oregon, and Texas. His light hearted humor and laughter plus a big heart is what I will always remember about Stephen. My fondest memory is the time we visited our grandparents' camp in Ogunquit, Maine and reminiscing about our childhood adventures.

He loved Denise and his his family fiercely and was so proud to have a grandson named after him. He will be sorely missed by all!

Posted by Michele Gagnon Aitchison - Bandon, OR - Family   April 24, 2017



Posted by maureen white - methuen, MA - Family   April 24, 2017

Dear Denise and family. My deepest condolences on your loss. Steve and I were classmates at Greater Lawrence Tech as well as teammates on the football team. Though we lost touch with each other after graduation, I have fond memories of those high school years. I know Steve will be deeply missed by everyone who knew him.

Posted by Bob Cashman - Andover, MA - Classmate   April 23, 2017

Dear Denise and family - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My sincerest condolences and prayers are with you in your time of sorrow.
Jan Byford-Foley

Posted by Jan Byford-Foley - Winchester, MA - Friend   April 23, 2017

Hello Denies. I am so sorry for your loss . thoughts andvprayers to you and your family love Karen Duncan (from Lint chocolate

Posted by Karen Duncan - Malden, MA - Friend   April 23, 2017

I have such fond PCYC memories of Steve. Taking us all fishing in the mooring field in his shark boat. The hard work he did on electrical and security cameras for the club. Most of all just seeing him sit at the bar in tshirt and suspenders having lunch after a hard day's work. His wry sense of humor and twinkle in his eyes as he said something funny. Listening to his stories of solo sailing to Maine and back saying that he had a mooring in every place he stopped with his name on it ..."Private Keepoff." We've lost a good man on this earth plane but heaven gained an angel. Deepest condolences to all in his family and circle of friends and colleagues.

Posted by Cynthia Smiszek - Newton, NH - Friend   April 20, 2017

Uncle Steve you will be deadly missed by all of us. You were one of the funniest people I've ever had a chance to know. You cared so much about this family, thank you for bringing us all together and helping us make memories. <br />Denise, Alec and so sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine. Thank you for sharing him with us. Anything we can do, please let us know.<br />

Posted by Margaret Dilendick - SALEM, NH - family   April 20, 2017

Steve was such a family man. Too much tragedy for one family to bare My heart goes out to his family

Posted by Irene Bourgeois - Stoneham, MA - Friend   April 19, 2017


Denise and family we are sorry for your loss.
Stephen (not Stevie!) you were always a lot of fun especially during our adventures. One that comes to mind often is our dogsledding trip to the Ely Minnesota during the coldest part of the winter. At the end of the trip while visiting the wolf museum you found out you were going to be a grandfather. The events that followed that evening were special and thankfully I have some of them preserved on film. Always fun to be with, I will miss the smile and dry humor.
Rest in piece.
Bernie & Na (you can call her May)

Posted by Bernard Kallelis - Peabody, MA - Friend   April 19, 2017