Mr. Thomas G. Maher

  • Born: December 20, 1939
  • Died: May 16, 2021
  • Location: Wakefield, Massachusetts

Barile Funeral Home

482 Main Street
Stoneham, MA 02180

Tel. 781.438.2280

Tribute & Message From The Family


A Loving Husband, Father, Grandfather, Brother and Proud Veteran of the U.S. Navy

Thomas G. Maher, of Wakefield, passed away on May 16, 2021. He was 81 years of age.

Thomas is the loving husband of Mary (Vacon) Maher. He is the devoted father of Scott Maher and Mandy Middleton and her husband Dana. Beloved grandfather of Elise Maher, Ava and Evan Middleton. Dear brother of Joani Winn and her husband Danny and the late David Maher. He is also survived by many loving nieces and nephews. Loving sister in law of Carol Vacon of Stoneham.

Thomas was born and raised in Malden, MA. After graduating from Malden High School in 1957, he enlisted in the U.S. Navy and served for four-years as a sonar-man, or "ping-jockey" aboard the destroyer escort U.S.S. Kretchmer (DE-329) in the North Atlantic and aboard P2V anti-submarine warfare
(ASW) aircraft. Tom enjoyed volunteering his time with the U.S.S. Cassin Young (DD793) Association in Charlestown, and with the U.S.C.G Auxiliary in Sector Boston. He obtained undergraduate and graduate degrees in English from Salem State College and a second masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

In 1964 he met his future wife, Mary Vacon, at a mutual friend's wedding where Mary caught the bridal bouquet and Tom caught the garter.
A first date ensued and Tom and Mary were married in 1969 in the Pierce Nichols House in Salem, MA Together they celebrated a loving and happy marriage for 52-years- raising a family in Wakefield and being a beloved "Grandpa" to his three grandchildren, whom he adored.

Tom taught High School English and English as a second language (ESL) at Malden High School until his retirement in 2001. Tom was a certified hypnotherapist who studied under Ted Benton at Winchester Hospital, with his own practice in Wakefield and Melrose for over 10-years. Tom's kind-hearted character and aptitude for problem- solving enabled him to help many people in his lifetime overcome personal difficulties.

Tom enjoyed spending summers with his family at their cottage in Meredith, NH at Lake Winnipesaukee. Tom possessed a warm and engaging personality, he was an avid reader, writer, and handy-man and he enjoyed discussing current events over black coffee with his friends and going for walks. He will be
dearly missed by all of those who knew and loved him.

In lieu of sending flowers, please consider making a tax-deductible donation to the Wounded Warrior

Family and friends are kindly invited to gather and share memories with the family in the Barile Family Funeral Home 482 Main St. (RT28) STONEHAM on Saturday June 12th from 10 am to 12 pm. Parking attendants and elevator available.

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a tax-deductible donation to the Wounded Warrior Project in Tom's name.


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Condolence & Memory Journal

I would like to express my deepest sympathy to Tom's family. I worked with Tom for many years at Malden High School and with the Malden Teachers Credit Union. He was a great teacher, co-worker, and friend. He will surely be missed.

Posted by Jeanne Marquardo - Revere, MA - Coworker   June 09, 2021

Mary. I am so very sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. He was such a beautiful soul and I’m sure he will be missed by everyone who knew him. ❤

Posted by Fiorello Susan - Friend   May 21, 2021

Heartfelt sympathy to Mary, Joani & all of your family. Tom was a kind, gentle soul & is lovingly remembered. You are all in my prayers.

Posted by Nancy O'Connor Morrison - Duxbury, MA - Family   May 21, 2021

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Oh Scott and family, I'm so sorry, such a wonderful person and a huge loss for this world <3. my sympathies deepest>
- Darren

Posted by Darren MacCaughey - Reading, MA - Friend   May 20, 2021

The Volunteer Crew of the Uss Cassin Young send our condolences to the family. Fair Winds and Following Seas shipmate, you are now at rest.

Posted by steve briand - woburn, MA - Acquaintance   May 18, 2021

We were so saddened to learn of Tom's passing. He was such a kind and caring man with a gentle nature that endeared him to everyone he encountered. May a lifetime of wonderful memories be a comfort to all of you.

Love,
Rusty, Ann and Lizzy Barr

Posted by Ann Barr - Wakefield, MA - Friend   May 18, 2021

Mary, Scott, Mandy, Joani and family - we are so very sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. He was a wonderful, caring and gentle soul. He will be greatly missed. We love you all and hope the happy memories will comfort you

Posted by Wendy & Peter Demeris - Family   May 17, 2021

Mary, Scott, Mandy, Joani and family - we are so very sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. He was a wonderful, caring and gentle soul. He will be greatly missed. We love you all and hope the happy memories will comfort you

Posted by Wendy & Peter Demeris - Family   May 17, 2021


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